Quotes about Resilience

I don't think love has to hurt as much as it did in the past. I don't think we have to allow love to hurt us as much as it has. We certainly don't have to let it destroy us.

Don't give up hope. It took many of us twenty years or more to acquire these protective behaviors we umbrella with the word codependency. It may take as much time as that to let go of them.

Even recovery brings losses, more changes we must struggle to accept.

To believe in people, to believe in each person's inherent ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care of themselves is a great gift we can give and receive from others.

Today, I will wait, if waiting is the action I need in order to take care of myself.

If you believe that feeling bad or worrying long enough will change a fact, then you are residing on another planet with a different reality system," wrote Dr. Wayne W. Dyer in Your Erroneous Zones.2

Remember, decisions don't have to be made perfectly. We don't have to be perfect. We don't even have to be nearly perfect. We can just be who we are. We can make mistakes in our choices. We're not so fragile we can't handle making a mistake. It's no big deal! It's part of living. We can learn from our mistakes, or we can simply make another decision.

We are like singers in a large chorus. If the guy next to us gets off key, must we? Wouldn't it help him, and us, more to strive to stay on key? We can learn to hold our part.

On our worst days, we still look for something we've done toward recovery. Sometimes the best we can do is feel good about what we did not do.

Struggling is okay. Back-stepping is okay. Small bits of progress are not only okay, they're admirable.

A good rule of thumb is: You need to detach most when it seems the least likely or possible thing to do. I

You can spoil your fun, your day, your life—that's your business—but I won't let you spoil my fun, my day, or my life.