no one offers the name of a philosopher when I ask the question, "Who helped you most?" Most often they answer by describing a quiet, unassuming person. Someone who was there whenever needed, who listened more than talked, who didn't keep glancing down at a watch, who hugged and touched, and cried.

Who helped you most? Most often they (suffering people) answer by describing a quiet, unassuming person. Someone who was there whenever needed, who listened more than talked, who didn't keep glancing down at a watch, who hugged and touched, and cried. In short, someone who was available, and came on the sufferer's terms and not their own.

Those who suffer rest their security not on things, which often cannot be enjoyed and may soon be taken away, but rather on people.

involvement with others was the most effective in quelling her pain.

When a couple encounters a crisis, it magnifies what's already present in the relationship.

by embracing grief and standing beside the hurting person, we can indeed aid another's search for meaning.

Every hour or so she asks how I'm feeling, and I hear her giving reports on the phone to her friends. "He's doing better today. A little trouper, doesn't complain at all." I like hearing her talk about me, as if I matter.

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep," advised the apostle Paul (Romans 12:15), wise words that apply especially in times of crisis.

a suffering person needs: love, and not knowledge and wisdom.

Sometimes family isn't the situation you're born into but the people who've chosen to love you along the way.

Much depends on your attitude. If you are filled with negative judgment and anger, then you will feel separate from other people. You will feel lonely. But if you have an open heart and are filled with trust and friendship, even if you are physically alone, even living a hermit's life, you will never feel lonely.

I like Chennai very much. The atmosphere is always great, and the fans are amazing. That's why I keep coming back.