Quotes about Intimacy

Every man can tell how many goats or sheep he possesses, but not how many friends.

He who hath many friends hath none.

If we are serious about loving someone, we have to surrender all the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.

Profound desire, true desire is the desire to be close to someone.

I made you, dear, and all I make is perfect. Please come close, for I desire you.

God is going to reveal me as a flawed human being as fast as he can and he's going to enjoy it because it will force me to grapple with real intimacy.

I don't know why it is, exactly, but the people with the healthiest self-esteem are also the greatest at intimacy. I'm not talking about arrogant people. I'm talking about people who know they are both good and bad yet believe at the deepest level they are really good for people. It's a beautiful moment when somebody wakes up to this reality, when they realize God created them so other people could enjoy them, not just endure them.

They never tell you when you get born a control freak it will cost you a healthy love life. But it's true. You can't control somebody and have intimacy with them at the same time. They may stay because they fear you, but true love casts out fear.

Right, but you know, what would any of us lose by losing our possessions. Maybe we would gain something, like relationships, like the beauty of good friends, intimacy, you know what I mean, man? Like we wouldn't be losing anything if we lost our stuff, we'd be gaining everything.

But it's better when you have somebody to go home to and talk about it with, somebody who is more in love with you than impressed by you.

We both have our independence and freedom, but we have those things with each other. It's a paradox, but it works. It all reminded me of what my friend Henry Cloud told me, that when two people are entirely and completely separate they are finally compatible to be one. Nobody's self-worth lives inside of another person. Intimacy means we are independently together.

The stuff it takes to be intimate is authenticity, vulnerability, and a belief that other people are about as good and bad as we are.