Quotes about Commitment

I'm going to ask you to do something that may feel even more painful: when you get close to becoming engaged, put any public announcement on delay for a few weeks and spend several sessions talking through all these issues again with someone else present.

Marriage is a good thing, and being intentional about your pursuit of it is commendable, not shameful.

This is the journey marriage calls us to, to seek to understand and empathize, for each of us to strive to become a redemptive partner rather than a legal opponent.

The sad reality is that when we get married for trivial reasons, we will seek divorce for trivial reasons. We need something much more lasting on which to base a lifelong commitment—one that even has eternal implications.

How much would every marriage change if we pursued absolute benevolence over our own comfort, happiness, and self-interest?

You don't marry a position. You marry a person.

Sometimes to follow in the footsteps of Jesus is to walk away from others or to let them walk away from us.

A defeatist attitude kills almost as many marriages as do affairs.

Here's the reality: many women are led into marriage primarily through romantic idealism, and many men are swept to the altar through sexual attraction. Before you can make a wise marital choice, you have to rid yourself of inferior motivations. The wrong why will lead you to the wrong who.

It's sort of like signing a mortgage or buying a business while drunk. You need to "dry out" a bit and think this thing through before you commit the rest of your life to someone you can't objectively evaluate

Our wives don't have to "deserve" it. A Christian husband doesn't love his wife only when she is lovable. He loves her whenever Christ deserves to be reverenced, which, of course, is always.

Wisdom says we should try to make a relationship work not because we have strong feelings but because it's a good match.