Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got.

One of the most important things we can do for a suffering person is to restore a sense of meaning or significance to the experience.

by embracing grief and standing beside the hurting person, we can indeed aid another's search for meaning.

Keep a fair-sized cemetery in your back yard, in which to bury the faults of your friends.

A quarrel between friends, when made up, adds a new tie to friendship.

We cannot afford to forget any experience, not even the most painful.

Defeat anger, stop using it as a shield against truth, and you will find the compassion you need to forgive the people you love.

Compassion will cure more sins than condemnation.

When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That is the message he is sending. If you are able to see that, offer him what he needs — relief. Happiness and safety are not an individual matter. His happiness and safety are crucial for your happiness and safety. Wholeheartedly wish him happiness and safety, and you will be happy and safe also.

When we cannot communicate, we suffer, and we spill our suffering on to other people. We can find ways to open the doors of communication again.

If you can see your mother as a fragile five-year-old girl, then you can forgive her very easily with compassion. The five-year-old girl who was your mother is always alive in her and in you.

Yes, we have the right to be mad at a sick person. We didn't ask for the problem. Although the ideal feeling is compassion, we probably won't feel this until we deal with our anger.