response—"Lord, how can I love him [or her] today like he [or she] has never been loved?" The answer may be very practical: take over a chore, speak a word of encouragement, take care of something that needs fixing. Or it may be romantic, or over-the-top creative, or generous, or very simple.

Chapter 21 teaches us to be less toxic toward ourselves.

Learn how to grieve fractured relationships, and then learn how to let them go. Don't let disappointment morph into self-doubt and self-flagellation. Just because you wish something wasn't a certain way doesn't mean it's your fault that it's not.

Giving respect is an obligation, not a favor; it is an act of maturity, birthed in a profound understanding of God's good grace.

Couples don't fall out of love so much as they fall out of repentance.

Look for the good in every person and every situation. You'll almost always find it.

Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others.

The more credit you give away, the more will come back to you. The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.

Love the giver more than the gift.

Who is the God that Christians worship? He is the God who loves and forgives. Surely Jesus demonstrated that truth on the cross. But how do we demonstrate this fact in our behavior? Our lives should be a living demonstration that we know a God who forgives.

Jesus said the standard was seventy times seven. I read somewhere that Dietrich Bonhoeffer explained it this way: "As long as you are counting, you haven't forgiven once." In

As long as we see any person as an enemy—whether Communist, Muslim or terrorist—then the love of God cannot flow through us to reach them.