Romance novels are all about desire and happily-ever-after, but happily-ever-after doesn't come from desire—at least not the kind portrayed in pulp romances. Real love is not to desire a person but to desire their happiness—sometimes even at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is to expand our own capacity for tolerance and caring, to actively seek another's well-being. All else is simply a charade of self-interest.

Growing up means putting aside our egocentricity for truth.

The measure of love isn't how much you want someone. It's revealed in what you want for them.

Real love is to expand our own capacity for tolerance and caring, to actively seek another's well-being. All else is simply a charade of self-interest. Zeke

Real love is not to desire a person but to desire their happiness — sometimes even at the expense of our own happiness. Real love is to expand our own capacity for tolerance and caring, to actively seek another's well-being. All else is simply a charade of self-interest.

Much of the work of midlife is to tell the difference between those who are dealing with their issues through you and those who are really dealing with you.

The good will is all — and all the talents are ways to fulfill it.

The need for security calls for a protector; achievement calls for a motivator; cooperation calls for a team builder; understanding calls for a nurturer; creativity calls for an innovator; moral values call for a transformer; spiritual fulfillment calls for a sage, or seer.

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.

Leadership is not about being in charge. Leadership is about taking care of those in your charge.

It is difficult to practice obedience; but it is even more difficult to practice leadership.

True leadership is found in giving yourself in service to others, not in coaxing or inducing others to serve you.