any change that comes about in your life will be primarily because of your own efforts

Don't go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.

aim for "low control, high accountability

Lethargy is evident in churches when the people have no sense of ownership.

All their commitments to change have been subverted by the one thing they seem unwilling to do: take the focus off the other and put it on themselves. Here is the point: no change takes place in a marriage that does not begin with confession.

Someone once said that you never see a person in a protest carrying a sign with an arrow pointing downward and with the words "I am the problem" painted on it.